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April 2017
When Executive Coaching Gets Personal

My client told me a story we have all heard, or even lived ourselves. His relationship was dysfunctional and unhappy...

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March 2017
Is Anyone Really Listening?

In several workshops during the last year, I revealed the profound “Three Layers of Deep Listening Model’

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February 2017
The Day I Did Not Hold Back

So how honest and direct can a coach get? Well, I really pushed the limit a while back.

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January 2017
No Menu, Please

The thought process created by being asked to choose from a menu of options is very different than that created by a powerful open question.

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November 2016
Should I Be Mean Now?

I resisted the temptation to do something mean just to prove him wrong, and thanked him for his feedback.

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August 2016
Are You Mr. Perfect?

“And secondly, you admitted openly that your career is more important to you than your family. I am very..."

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July 2016
Entitled or Grateful?

An example in point: I have seen a handful of Talent Management programs go down the drain, partly because those selected as ‘having talent’ started to feel that they not only deserved special treatment (based upon hard work, exceptional performance, etc.); but that they were even entitled to it.

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June 2016
Bla Bla Bla Bla Bla Bla

 

 realized that I had to actually interrupt him to get a word in edgewise, which would make me feel rude. I broke in anyway, saying…
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May 2016
No You Don't!

“I have to exercise more.” “I’ve got to start networking.” “I need to stop planning back-to-back meetings.” “I have to get on top of my Inbox.” “I’ve got to start leaving the office by 18:00.” “I need to spend more time with my team.“ Etcetera etcetera etcetera.

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April 2016
Cutting Deals Up Front

But what about contracting up front, right at the beginning of the coaching journey?

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February 2016
Who Takes the First Shot?

While many say that pure coaching consists of giving no advice at all, I’ve heard many coaches confess that they do give advice from time to time.

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January 2016
Can We Please Turn the Video Off?

“Can we please turn the video off?”, she said. I immediately felt intense curiosity shooting...

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October 2015
I'm Not an Idiot

I was caught completely off guard. I had no idea that this had been going on inside him.

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July 2015
It is Just a Sigh

I’ve heard this so many times. It resembles a sigh, yet it’s different.  When a person sighs, they breathe in deeply, and slowly.  And then...

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June 2015
You are Fill in the Blank

Then I said, “So it sounds like you are a good communicator.”  He winced as if I had stepped on his toe, and I asked him why.  He wasn’t sure.

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May 2015
Failure!

I believe that failure can be celebrated, as long as we learn from it. This is a new perspective for many coaches, and also a gift...

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16 april 2015
Celebrating 20 Years of Coaching Excellence: Aftermovie

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April 2015
Working Too Hard to Listen

Years ago, I unintentionally fell asleep on my colleague while he was driving both of us home from our very first

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February 2015
The Conversation Stopper

Then you ask what you think is a great open question, and the conversation comes to a dead halt.  Silence.  What happens next?

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January 2015
I am Great

I am frequently asked: “What theme comes up most often in your coaching sessions?”...

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November 2014
Tell Me More

I think coachees send out ‘invitations’ all the time.  Here’s what it looks like:  During a coaching conversation...

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October 2014
What Else?

So you ask your coachee: “How can you achieve this goal?”  Without any hesitation, you receive an answer. What do you do next?

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September 2014
The Power of Pulling It Together

Coaching conversations (and most conversations, actually) are much like two people walking down a road together. When they come to a crossroad,

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August 2014
Are You Taking Note?

Boring?  At first glance, the topic of note taking may seem to be one of the more mundane items to cover in a blog post on coaching.  I beg to differ

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July 2014
Pushing for Solutions

Someone comes to you to discuss an issue they have.  You ask some questions, and at a certain point, you feel like you have a pretty good grip of the situation.  It is time to move to solutions, right?

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June 2014
The Coaching Trap

It can be so easy to fall into ‘The Coaching Trap’.  Imagine that you are coaching someone, and you believe the conversation is going quite well...

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May 2014
Take a Break

Recently I was listening to (what was in my opinion) a very chaotic story.  My coachee moved randomly from present, to past, to future, to past, to present, etc...

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April 2014
What was he THINKING?

“It’s despicable!  I sent Marco an invitation a week beforehand, but never heard a...

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March 2014
Interrupting

Have you ever found yourself interrupting while coaching someone?

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February 2014
Good Question!

When it comes to coaching, questions are the engine that drives deeper exploration and rich conversations.

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January 2014
Out of my control!

Many of the people I coach are quite ambitious.  They set significant goals for themselves that seem to fall into one of two categories.

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December 2013
Your Number One Challenge: Stop Giving Advice!

Here’s a scenario that repeats itself regularly while participants in our coaching programs are practicing their coaching skills.

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